What Does It Mean To Self Improve?
Self Improvement has become mainstream. In the last few years, since I have been writing articles and submitting them to article sites, I’ve noticed that the category of Self Improvement has been showing up lately when it was never there before. To me, this is very good news.
But what does it really mean to Self Improve? What are we really improving when we self improve? And what self are we improving?
We each have two selves our wounded self and our core Self. Our core Self is our true self, our natural soul-self our essence. Our core Self is our passion, our joy, our gifts and talents, our ability to love, our creativity.
We come into this life as our core Self, and when this Self is loved and valued by our parents, we continue to naturally grow our God-given gifts and talents and manifest the fullness of our beings. This Self wants to improve by learning the skills necessary to fully express itself.
But when this Self is not seen and valued in the way we needed, we create an alternative self, a self we hope will have control over getting the love we need and avoiding the pain we cant handle a self to help us feel safe.
This is our false self, our wounded self, our ego-self. This self is filled with the false beliefs that we absorbed as we were growing up beliefs that end up limiting our true, core Self. This self does not needs improving it needs healing.
The term self-improvement can sometimes be a bit misleading because we do not want to improve our wounded self. We do not want to improve on the ways we lie, manipulate, and avoid in our attempts to have control over getting love and avoiding pain.
And we don’t want to improve on our many addictions to substance and processes. We don’t want to improve on our anger, our compliance, our withdrawal, and our resistance.
We want to heal it.
Personal Growth from SelfGrowth.com
Healing and improving are not the same thing.
We can certainly self-improve when it comes to skills. Also improve in sports, art, music, writing, cooking. We can improve our health and wellbeing by improving our diet and exercise program. And we can improve the knowledge we need to be more successful regarding work and money. We might be able to improve our relationships by learning new communication skills.
But what if acquiring new knowledge and skills does not improve our health, or our ability to earn money, or our relationships? And what if learning new skills does not bring us more joy and inner peace? It may mean that we need to heal the underlying fears and false beliefs that cause us to be anxious, depressed, stressed, guilt-ridden, shamed, withdrawn, angry, blaming, or sad.
Practicing A Skill
Sometimes Self Improvement just means practicing a skill, and other times it means that we need to participate in a deep healing process. For example, many people try to improve their health by losing weight and exercising. But if their food addictions are covering over unhealed pain, they might not be able to just change their diet. They might need to open to a healing process in order to eventually improve.
If you are really trying to self improve but find yourself stuck and unable to progress or find that you have no joy or inner peace, you might want to open to the possibility that unhealed pain and beliefs are blocking your progress and causing your pain.
It is easy to improve yourself when there is nothing blocking the way. But if you have old false beliefs about your adequacy and worth. These beliefs may be blocking your ability to take loving action on your own behalf.
All your efforts to self improve will not bring you the satisfaction you are seeking if you have beliefs that are keeping you limited in fully expressing your true, core Self. If you are stuck, then you need to seek out a healing process. Such as the Inner Bonding process we teach, which will move you out of the fears and beliefs that limit you. Healing these fears and limiting beliefs will open the door to improving your life in all ways!
Self Improvement And Success Go Hand In Hand More Than You Think…
How do you know if a person is willing to attain self-improvement? This is a question with no definite answer. It will all depend on the individual.
Many people have goals, dreams, or ambitions but do not know how to go about achieving them. They may have thought about what would make up self-improvement and their ideal life, but have no idea how to even begin to make the plans and take the actions required to make them a reality.
Some people have a vague idea of how to go about self-improvement. These are the ones that believe that if only they had a better job, or had been given better opportunities, or met the love of their life, or whatever else, everything would be fine and they would be happy.
They feel that their happiness or lack of happiness is decided by external factors and their thoughts and actions are of little consequence.
Money Is Not The Answer
Some believe that if only they had more money they could have whatever they want and be on their way to self-improvement.
They may have spent little time thinking about what they actually want from life, and do not really believe there is anything they can do to create their fuzzy version of utopia anyway, apart from buying more lottery tickets.
Other people do not even know what they actually want from their lives and may even have little idea about what would really make them happy. They seem to just drift from day to day, week to week, month to month, and year to year, and do little more than just about get by.
Also, they may have seemingly secure jobs and be earning enough to live relatively comfortable lives. They seem happy enough and have no great ambition to achieve anything more from their lives than they currently have.
Is self-improvement important?
The reality is that throughout our lives we are all constantly growing and developing. Circumstances make us grow and develop, even if we do not make the conscious decision to do so.
Up to a certain age, we learn through formal education and we continue to learn through our experiences for the rest of our lives. We have to learn and grow to deal with everything that life throws at us. We all have to go through self-improvement.
Modern life moves at a dramatically faster pace than at any time in history. For anyone living in modern society, there are more opportunities to do anything that you want to do with your life than ever before.
But there is also more competition than ever before, and ever-changing technology means that there really are few, if any jobs for life anymore. It is now normal not only to change jobs quite often throughout our working lives but even to completely change careers and industries.
Because the workplace is so competitive, people who are ambitious and hungry for success know they need to learn new skills and knowledge to keep ahead of the pack. To attain this, self-improvement is needed.
These are the people that will be most likely to keep their jobs, or progress within their chosen field, or that will be readily employable in different organizations or industries.
A commitment to self-improvement and personal growth may well be the deciding factor in how anyone’s future will turn out.
Self Improvement: The Foundation Of Success
Many people have dreams, ambitions, or goals but do not know how to go about achieving them.
They may have thought about self-improvement and what their ideal life would consist of. But have no idea how to even begin to make the plans and take the actions required to make this a reality.
How can one tell if a person is willing to work on self-improvement? Some people have merely a vague idea about how to begin improving. These are the folks who believe that if only they had a better job, or met the love of their life, or had been given better opportunities, and so on, everything would be fine and they would be happy.
They believe that their happiness or lack of it is decided by external factors; thus their thoughts and actions are deemed to be of little consequence. Some believe that if only they had more money they could have whatever they want and be on their way to self-improvement. I call these people materialist self-improvers.
What Do You Want?
Sadly, most people have spent little time thinking about what they actually want from life. Most of us just trudge through our daily routines and work, without thinking of the possibilities for change. Others briefly consider changes but do not believe there is anything they can do to create their vague version of utopia. Apart from buying more lottery tickets.
People who fail to reflect on these matters often do not know what they actually want from their lives. And may even have little idea what would genuinely make them happy. They seem to just drift from day to day, week to week, and year to year, doing little more than just getting by.
And they may have what they believe to be a secure job and earn enough to live a relatively comfortable life. They seem happy enough and have no great ambition to achieve anything more from life. But there is more, much more.
How Important Is Self Development?
Throughout our lives, we are constantly growing and developing. Circumstances make us grow and develop, even if we fail to make the conscious decision to do so. Before a certain age, we learn through formal education institutions. And we continue to learn through our experiences for the rest of our lives. We all go through general self-improvement just in dealing with life’s ups and downs.
Today’s world moves at a much faster pace than at any time in history. For anyone living in modern society, there are more opportunities to structure our lives than ever. But that can also create confusion and hesitation.
There is also greater competition today, and ever-changing technology means that there are few jobs for life anymore. It is now normal not only to change jobs frequently throughout our working lives. But even to change careers or industries entirely.
Because the modern workplace is so competitive. People who are ambitious and hungry for success. Know they need to learn new skills and knowledge to keep ahead of colleagues. To attain this, they must add self-improvement to the list of tasks.
I like to call these people reflective actors. Meaning that they not only reflect on their desires, but they choose to act on them. They are the people that are most likely to progress within their chosen field. And will be most readily employable in different organizations or industries.
An individual’s commitment to self-improvement and personal growth. May well be the deciding factor in how his or her future plays out. We will be covering this topic in several upcoming articles. And hope to offer guidance to those who are taking the first steps toward self-improvement.
Create a good day & keep self-improving!